"Adulting"
Hardly a week goes by when at least one person mentions how hard “adulting” is. This term first appeared in social media in 2008. Most definitions boil down to: behaving in a manner consistent with adulthood; being responsible; being grown up. Further explanations often include things like paying bills, running errands, or taking care of yourself.
How many of you couldn’t wait to be a grownup when you were little? It seemed pretty great at one time - eating what you want, driving, having money, and staying up late! As you got older, new facets of being an adult surfaced. Like remembering to make a dentist appointment and then actually going. Or earning enough money for shelter, food and general living expenses. For some, it is overwhelming.
WHERE ARE YOU IN “ADULTING”? How many can you check off?
You get up, shower and make something to eat – without someone prompting you daily
You earn your own money for necessities and fun
You shop for groceries (ideally after making a list of what you need)
You cook your own meals (including taking things out of the freezer to defrost, knowing what ingredients you need, planning how long it will take to make)
You’re on time for work, school, and other commitments
You get yourself around either with a car you own or by public transportation
You do your own laundry (including sheets & towels that you change regularly)
You clean your home and do your dishes regularly
You pay your bills
You file your own taxes
You make your own appointments
You budget your money
You live in a place that you rent or own
You can handle paperwork (for a new job, forms at the doctor’s, rental agreements, etc.)
You call people; not just using text, email or social media
You manage your physical & mental health (including pursuing things you enjoy)
You consider the cost of activities & purchases before saying ‘yes’
You organize important things using filing systems, to-do lists, and planners/calendars
You value insurance (health, car, home) and pay for them
You contribute or are working on contributing to a savings account
You are aware of what’s going on in the world or your community
You call your parents, siblings or other family members to check-in and share
You choose friends who lift you up and are supportive
You choose clothing because you like it, not based on how others might react to it
You have opinions on big topics like politics, religion, or newsworthy issues
A fun night may include staying in & watching a movie, reading a book, talking with friends
You have conversations that go beyond talking about yourself, gossip, or complaining. You seek meaningful discussions.
Age doesn’t automatically qualify you as acting like an adult. It’s a process and may take some practice. It likely involves some mistakes and tough ‘learning opportunities’ along the way. Recognize when you need guidance from others. Leave out any blame for not knowing how to do some things. Commit to changing habits and learning new responsibilities. Once you do, being an adult can be enjoyable!