Choose Yourself
How often do you give yourself approval, understanding and love? It’s not uncommon to rely on others to validate your worth; and it feels good when they gladly give you affirmations. However, if your main source of feeling valued and loved comes from other people, there are only so many times in a day or week or month that you will receive validation.
What kind of love do you freely give yourself?
Do you treat yourself with compassion and respect?
How much do you prioritize your own happiness and well-being?
Accepting and being kind to yourself is not self-indulgent. It’s a way to counter the negative self-talk, feelings of guilt and disappointment that all of us experience from time to time. Remember that you are more likely harder on yourself than anyone – wanting to excel, accomplish, and do things “right” all the time. This leads to self-criticism and an unhealthy level of perfectionism. It puts you at risk for physical and mental health concerns. Would you agree that you are tougher on yourself than toward other people?
WORK TOWARD SELF-ACCEPTANCE
Be gentle with yourself. When difficult emotions arise, notice them and give them space to exist. Listen to what your feelings are trying to tell you.
Listen for self-criticism. When you notice a flaw, acknowledge that you are human and consider how you can either accept it or choose to work on improving.
Welcome the wisdom of “not knowing”. Accept that you still have so much to explore and learn. You do not need to have all the answers today. Be teachable and open to personal growth.
Recognize your gifts & strengths. Share them with others. Appreciate your own value.
Pay attention to your values and passions. Seek to be fulfilled and to follow what brings you joy.
Eliminate the habit of negatively labeling or categorizing yourself. You are much more than your worst mistake or bad day.
Set boundaries and call for respect. Say “no” when necessary, and remove yourself from situations that are hurtful or destructive.
Make time daily to express gratitude for what you DO have in your life. Embrace self-affirmations.
Take care of yourself: physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, socially, organizationally, etc.
Ask for help from people who are objective, caring and supportive.
Make yourself a priority. You are worthy, valuable, resilient, and deserving of respect and happiness.