How To Be Happy When You're Alone
Some people can’t wait for a moment of solitude while others dread knowing they’re going to be alone. There is a notion that being by yourself equals something negative - “time outs”, not being invited/included, being too sick or busy to participate… COVID quarantining! Being alone can feel uncomfortable and lonely. When is the last time you CHOSE to go to a restaurant or movie, sit in a park, travel or enjoy a quiet day at home by yourself?
When faced with being alone, people distract themselves by mindlessly consuming social media, TV, video games, online shopping, or with snacking. It helps to avoid worries and emotions that tend to rise up when things quiet down and there aren’t other people around to distract you.
Time alone allows you get to strengthen your relationship with yourself and shed light on how valuable you are. You learn that you don’t need the approval of others to know your worth.
SPEND TIME WITH YOURSELF
Let go of the idea that being alone must be comfortable. It won’t always be… and that’s okay!
Put to-do lists and other distractions away for a little bit. They’ll still be there later.
Consider time alone as a date with yourself. What’s your ideal date or hanging out scenario?
Use this as an opportunity to know yourself better (explore your likes, dislikes, quirks, habits, what replenishes you, what you find funny, scary, romantic and enjoyable).
Pay attention to temptations that cost money, time and energy, or that numb your feelings. Those habits & cravings sidetrack you from yourself.
Focus and observe. What is happening right now? What is right in front of you? Try meditating or simply sit in a quiet, dark room and tune into what your senses tell you. Just notice, don’t react.
Spend time in front of a mirror. Really look at yourself – beyond the initial glance. SEE yourself. Smile at yourself. Be kind to yourself.
Explore your creativity, emotions and growth through art, music, journaling, reflection, cooking, gardening, and learning.
Try something new, impractical, or whimsical – no one will be there to judge you, so why not give it a try? Enjoy the freedom!
Talk to yourself, OUT LOUD. Listen to your inner thoughts more clearly. Problem solve, give yourself affirmations, reframe difficult situations into positive ones. Value your own opinions, without the external noise of others’ viewpoints.
When you embrace time alone, you amplify your creativity and imagination. You connect deeper with nature and spirituality. You become more aware of your senses. You’re less inclined to seek/ need attention or external validation. You gain confidence. You learn to ask questions of yourself. You tend to lie and exaggerate less. You become comfortable looking someone in the eyes, speaking up for yourself, and smiling.